20 March 2017

Interview: The Importance of Social Creches with Psychologist Natalia Rotaru- Sîrbu

 

The Lent campaign takes place during the Great Lent and will end on Easter. www.rostulpostului.md is a virtual restaurant where people can donate the cost of the dishes they will give up for one day to prevent the separation of parents and children living in extreme poverty. The money collected will be used to build a social nursery in Balti for children aged 4 months-3 years from socially vulnerable families. Interview with Natalia Rotaru-Sirbu, psychologist CCF / HHC Moldova about the importance of social care for children who risk being separated from their parents because of poverty.

1. What is social welfare?

Social welfare is a service for socially vulnerable families who are at risk of separating children from their parents. The aim of the social nursery is to give children the opportunity to be close to their mothers and to maintain that attachment that develops during the first months of life of the child.

2. Who are the beneficiaries of social welfare service?

They are usually single mothers who do not have a stable place to live and are forced to rent a home. However, besides mothers, the main beneficiaries are children aged 3-4 months up to the age of 3 years. Through this service, dozens of children have passed, whose fate has been radically changed for good. Their desperate parents, driven by poverty, were about to abandon them in their children’s homes. Due to the fact that they sent their children to the social crèche, they engaged in work and kept their children in the family, in an atmosphere of love and warmth – the basic ingredients for the harmonious growth and development of the child and the transformation His later in an integral and happy personality.

3. How can social welfare help prevent child abandonment?

With the development of this service, mothers can fit into the workplace. Thus, working can pay for the host, they can get the necessary products and food and they do not form a feeling of material dependence on someone. Parallel, taking her child home every night, she develops her skills of care, breastfeeding during the evening, playing together, seeing her growing day by day, and not losing her mother and child .Therefore, thanks to the services provided by the social welfare, mothers will become closer to children and financially independent, which would reduce the risk of abandonment of children.

4. How would social crises contribute to the relationship between mothers and children from a psychological perspective?

The most important thing is that mother feels supported, and by providing these services we also annihilate the traumas of motherhood, we recover their ability to provide children with a socially appropriate model for their child and become independent mothers. Each of us has a difficult time in life when a handful of help can save you from despair. I have seen dozens of mothers and fathers in this situation, seeing how happy they are now that they have made the right choice, and the children are staying at home, in the family’s nest, where it is best psychologically and emotional.

5. What effects can a child’s social nursery attend to?

The most important effect is that the little one remains with his mother and is not abandoned. The second effect is that the mother retains her attachment to the baby. Children attending the social welfare service interact with each other, form certain skills, adapt to change, and are ready to be integrated later in kindergartens.

6. How has the behavior of mothers who have benefited from social welfare services changed?

Mothers have become more confident in their own strengths, quieter, happier, they have the potential that they and their children have the potential. They became blunt, sociable and understood what services they can call, and even have become support for other mothers, that is, they come with some advice and a good word in support of those parents who are going through a difficult time. Some of them have studied and have reached a different level of living, much more independent. Respectively, the changes were made at the level of the whole family. A child is happy when his parents are happy. If we can help the parent, make it easy for him to grow up, direct him to services, come up with some tips or suggestions, help the child grow up in a warm, stress-free atmosphere.